My Mean Girl
1:17am Thursday, November 16, 2017
I'm starting this blog to vent my frustrations with my daughter Bailey; without reacting to her. So...here goes!
Bailey is awesome most of the time; however, there's this small percentage of her life where she's not so nice. I keep thinking it's because she's a senior in high school and she's starting the natural pull away from her family routine but she has actually been mean for a few years. She was mean to Sammy the last year or two before Sammy graduated from high school and now Sammy's on a mission and she has plenty of mean for Mike, me and the rest of our kids!
Yesterday morning I had a bad reaction to Bailey's "meanness" and I decided after that it was going to be the last time I would react to Bailey's nonsense, instead of being what Jack calls a "nuclear over-reactor"!
The problem with my reacting to her meanness is that when I react and, especially over-react, then the focus of what's happening shifts from the meanness to my reaction. I am the adult so I feel that it's time to stop reacting to Bailey. I've decided that every 3 times I don't react to Bailey's antics that I'll reward myself by watching a show on TV that I like (all alone!).
Waking Bailey up every morning for seminary is pretty much a nightmare. Both Mike and I have said that we wish we never had to wake her up ever again! She doesn't wake up to her alarm though so we have to wake her up...there will be lots of stories about that in the future I'm sure!
Tonight: Carson and I were talking in the kitchen while Bailey was watching "her show" Riverdale in the TV area off the kitchen. She yelled at Carson and me several times while she was watching to shut up bc we were too loud. We obviously didn't have the right to be talking during her show.
Later tonight about 11:30pm I went into her room to make sure that she was in bed or going to bed. Rather than a g'night hug or even just a nice "goodnight" she yelled at me to close the door and get out; even though she was not asleep yet. (She was obviously tired) I asked her if she'd sent some texts I'd asked her to send and she yelled "no!" can you please get out?"
The great thing is that after these 2 instances I stayed calm and didn't react to her drama. That made me very pleased with myself! One more time and I'll reward myself with a TV show! Ha!
I'm starting this blog to vent my frustrations with my daughter Bailey; without reacting to her. So...here goes!
Bailey is awesome most of the time; however, there's this small percentage of her life where she's not so nice. I keep thinking it's because she's a senior in high school and she's starting the natural pull away from her family routine but she has actually been mean for a few years. She was mean to Sammy the last year or two before Sammy graduated from high school and now Sammy's on a mission and she has plenty of mean for Mike, me and the rest of our kids!
Yesterday morning I had a bad reaction to Bailey's "meanness" and I decided after that it was going to be the last time I would react to Bailey's nonsense, instead of being what Jack calls a "nuclear over-reactor"!
The problem with my reacting to her meanness is that when I react and, especially over-react, then the focus of what's happening shifts from the meanness to my reaction. I am the adult so I feel that it's time to stop reacting to Bailey. I've decided that every 3 times I don't react to Bailey's antics that I'll reward myself by watching a show on TV that I like (all alone!).
Waking Bailey up every morning for seminary is pretty much a nightmare. Both Mike and I have said that we wish we never had to wake her up ever again! She doesn't wake up to her alarm though so we have to wake her up...there will be lots of stories about that in the future I'm sure!
Tonight: Carson and I were talking in the kitchen while Bailey was watching "her show" Riverdale in the TV area off the kitchen. She yelled at Carson and me several times while she was watching to shut up bc we were too loud. We obviously didn't have the right to be talking during her show.
Later tonight about 11:30pm I went into her room to make sure that she was in bed or going to bed. Rather than a g'night hug or even just a nice "goodnight" she yelled at me to close the door and get out; even though she was not asleep yet. (She was obviously tired) I asked her if she'd sent some texts I'd asked her to send and she yelled "no!" can you please get out?"
The great thing is that after these 2 instances I stayed calm and didn't react to her drama. That made me very pleased with myself! One more time and I'll reward myself with a TV show! Ha!
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